The Discipline of
Coming Home
A BOOK BY STEPHEN KUHN
ON AMBITION, LOVE, AND THE INNER LIFE
For those who have succeeded by most outward measures and still feel unsettled within.
The Discipline of Coming Home explores the hidden bargain beneath ambition: the belief that achievement, recognition, control, or love can finally prove our worth.
This book is not an argument against ambition. It is an invitation to live, work, love, and lead from a place deeper than the need to prove.
"In The Discipline of Coming Home, Stephen Kuhn delivers a deep, thought-provoking, and pleasantly articulate synthesis of what it means to walk the tightrope of the razor's edge. This book is a masterful exploration of finding the "middle way": Acting fully in the world without being inwardly ruled by it. This is a demanding text, but immensely rewarding. It is not just a book to read once, but a manual I fully intend to return to in the years to come. Highly recommended for anyone looking to reconcile deep ambition with profound inner peace."
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ABOUT THE BOOK
What if the life you built is not the place you are trying to reach?
The Discipline of Coming Home is a book for people who have achieved much of what they once wanted and still sense that something essential remains unsettled.
Written for founders, executives, investors, creators, and others who have lived close to ambition, the book examines the hidden bargain beneath achievement: the belief that work, recognition, success, control, or even love can finally prove our worth.
Stephen Kuhn offers a different path. Not retreat from the world, and not rejection of ambition, but a disciplined return to the ground beneath striving — a way of living, working, loving, and leading from a place no longer organized around proving.
This is a book about ambition, love, and the inner life. It is also a book about home: the state of being that arises when one stops asking life to give what it cannot.
Stephen M. Kuhn
Stephen M. Kuhn is the principal of Advantary, an advisory services and venture capital firm working with founders and boards on the patterns that shape decisions. He writes about ambition, attention, and the inner work that precedes good outcomes.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
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Short reflections from the author. No noise.
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